[Infertility] How to Deal with: Baby Announcements, and "Those Comments"

Hi Ladies,
Lately I have found myself feeling much better about my current situation and have decided to try and be a voice for those struggling with infertility. We have all had to deal with the incessant pregnancy and baby announcements that seem to pop up at the worst possible moment, and just love to kick you while your down, the "I wasn't even trying", "Wow, I got pregnant on birth control!"  or "This is the worst thing that could be happening right now" just make us want to isolate ourselves even more. It is very hard to not be selfish when you are constantly bombarded with these announcements, baby shower invites, or gender reveals.  People try to help us the best way they know how, but often times "those comments" end up fueling the fire, "I've been trying for three months, I totally understand." "Just relax and it'll happen." "Stop trying and just have fun, that's what worked for me!" "Maybe it's just not your time." "Why don't you JUST adopt."  Our friends do not seem to understand that these words cut us like knives, and infuriate us more than anything else.


So how do we stay strong when we are constantly under attack? Well for me Facebook is a major part of this, so I have taken to "unfollowing" friends who are expecting to save myself from having to see it all the time. This is helpful because you can still be friends with these people their posts will just be hidden from you. Of course this only helps our social media problems, not the awkwardness of crying at a baby shower, or holding in your anger while listening to fertile friends give you advice. So how do we stay strong when we are literally face to face with our demons? We pray. Pray for peace, pray for understanding for both us and our friends and family, pray for the green eyed monster to take a hike, pray that one day our dreams will come true. I have started this blog as well as a journal where I write everything down, the things I am too afraid to say, the anger that if I keep bottled up will explode like a nuke, the feelings of inadequacy, and the questions of why. This helps prevent me from lashing out on Facebook and in front of friends. Infertility is something that you cannot deal with by yourself, we need our friends and our families of course, but most of all we need our GOD and we need people to understand the ugly truth about infertility.
                                   Stay Strong!! We can get through this!!