Becoming the woman our husband deserves...

Many of us find ourselves becoming far too comfortable in our marriages. We stop doing our hair and make up, stop telling our husband's how much they mean to us, we just stop trying to help our husbands love us. I have found many days when I am home all day that I will be in sweats or pjs when my husband gets home and that is just not okay. We should be striving to be that girl who didn't feel complacent about her relationship, the girl who got butterflies whenever he called, the girl who spent time on her appearance, and the girl who treated her man as a prized possession not just someone who is legally bound to stick around. Divorces happen in part I think because people just stop trying, they don't feel like they need to because they are legally bound so there's no need to try anymore.

 In Proverbs 31 we read about the woman God designed us to be, someone who "gets up while it is still night and provides food for her family"(verse 15), someone whose husband has full confidence in her and a woman who brings good to her husband not bad.(verse 11 and 12) I see this verse as saying a woman who takes care of the household without needing to nag at her husband, who already works hard enough, to help around the house. I see this as a woman who brings comfort not distress. How many times has it happened to where your husband comes home from a long day only to have to sit through hours of complaining about how much work we have to do around the house on top of our own jobs? God made women to serve men, not in a derogatory way in a beautiful and Godly way and to show them how much we love and appreciate them in turn we receive love, appreciation, and adoration from our husbands. The man is the head of the household, he is responsible for some much already perhaps its time we cut him some slack and allowed him to come home to a peaceful and clean home with a happy put together wife who is ready to love on him and hear about his day. But more than anything your husband deserves a woman who adores the Lord and is constantly praying for her husband and her marriage. "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." (Verse 30)
 So I am challenging whoever reads this to take time out of your own busy schedule to spend time adoring and living for your husband. Get dolled up and have a nice meal ready for him when he gets home, spend extra time cleaning the house-take out the trash, mow the lawn-do any job he normally does and give him a little break. Lets go back to those girls who held our relationships as gold!