Understanding infertility

Trying to conceive while dealing with infertility is a long and painful road with a simple goal at the end, to become a parent. This is a goal that most girls decide as children, they have names and gender preferences all picked out, never imagining that one day they might be one of the few who's fertility journey ends with empty arms. I have prayed and longed for my future child for going on two years, I have dreamed of dimples, tiny toes, perfect fingers, and a breathtaking smile. I know one day that dream will be a reality because I serve a graceful and faithful God, but my heart breaks a little more each month that little negative sign appears. I allow myself to get lost in this image of my child, to see him or her grow, to wonder who they will look like, to know what it is like to have a blood connection to someone(I was adopted). I know my child will be smart, they will be caring, they will be LOVED more than anything in the world because they were so desired, so WANTED, that I will never EVER take a second of my life as a mother for granted, but what I don't know is when or how that child will come to be mine. I try as hard as I can not to envy those who have children, but hearing you complain is a slap in the face. I know motherhood is not all sunshine and rainbows, but imagine if you will, how you would feel if you were in my shoes? Doing everything under the sun to try and conceive while others are complaining constantly about the pains of motherhood? Please remember motherhood is a blessing, it is not to be taken for granted because if your life had turned out like mine then the idea of having children is not a guarantee, and there is a very real possibility that it may never happen. Most of the advice I get from friends is really very terrible, "Relax and it'll happen." "Just stop trying, and forget you want a baby""Maybe it's not your time" "Maybe God has a different plan for you." "Why don't you JUST try IVF or Adoption?"(Both of which by the way are $10,000+ (per attempt for IVF)) Most of which may sound like good advice and could work for  those who haven't been diagnosed with a fertility problem. So before you offer "advice" please remember that we are in pain, we feel broken and damaged, sometimes we are irrational, sometimes we get angry or want to give up, but we are always in need of a friend. We get enough advice from our doctors, we don't need to hear about how your sister's cousin's best friend stood on her head and got pregnant. We just need encouragement and prayer, love and support, we need our dreams to become reality.